Married AF

Wow, it’s officially been one month since our wedding. I’m not sure how that’s possible and where the time has gone. As time goes on and I think about our wedding day, I can’t help but smile as I think of the special moments between Erick and I, being around our families, our friends who traveled so far, the kid’s portion of our ceremony, our vows, and the incredible dance party that was our reception. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t look at the photos and videos I have at least every other day…okay, fine. Maybe every day.

It’s funny, as I’m the one who didn’t want a big wedding and was hoping Erick would change his mind and agree to elope the entire 18 months of the engagement, I surprised even myself how excited I was the entire week, soaking up all the attention, getting pampered for days, and most of all, me – who is borderline anti-social, couldn’t get enough of spending time with people and embracing every moment with our loved ones. Pro tip: I took advice from blogger @thedailytay to make sure everything was done prior so I could enjoy every moment with guests and not be finishing up vows, wrapping presents, or doing anything above the day of duties. I can’t recommend this advice enough. If I would have been stuck in the hotel room when I knew people were out having fun I would have been so bummed.

I started wedding week by heading to Omaha to begin getting glammed up from hair appointments, facials, and a not-so-successful eyelash extensions appointment (more to come on that later). Once I finished getting pampered in Omaha during the week, Erick and I met in Des Moines to start all the festivities. This kicked off with getting lost trying to locate the building to pick up our marriage certificate. Three buildings later and a very hangry bride-to-be in tow, we picked it up and recruited a kid walking by to take our photo for the obligatory marriage certificate pick up photo. Then, it was right to getting the party started with our first guest who arrived.


I must admit, I hadn’t spent much time in Des Moines before this weekend, and I was pleasantly surprised. Great bars, pretty amazing food options for all – including great vegan options, unique art and shopping. And though I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time as I would have liked with each and every guest, I was really happy to carve out some time with the groups of people that I was able to.

Friday we woke up and had breakfast with our officiant, Pastor Mark. Mark was our pastor at the church Erick and I attend in Chicago, though he recently relocated to New Jersey. I was so happy to have him there, I made sure we made the time to talk to him, as I knew wedding day would go by so quick. As soon as Erick proposed, one of our very first conversations was about having Mark officiate the wedding. I was so happy he could make the trip for us.

I spent Friday afternoon with my mom, sister, sister-in-law, and two nieces getting nails done in the cutest little hipster nail salon in East Village. It’s not often that we all are able to get together given the hectic reality of life, kids, and me living in Chicago, so it was really nice to spend time with the ladies as we got pampered.

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I simply can’t get over how great it was to have everyone I love in one space. Spending time the days leading up to the wedding, and especially looking onto our guests during the wedding and knowing everyone there has been an important part of mine and Erick’s lives. We also spent a lot of time hiring vendors that we spent a large amount of time, thought, and effort into selecting.


There are way more wedding posts to come - once I get my wedding photos back it may be a steady stream of wedding blogs as I’m sure it’s going to be all I look at for weeks as I relive every moment. But, in the meantime, a huge thank you to everyone who traveled to Des Moines, sent well-wishes, did anti-ran dances, and helped celebrate Erick and I in anyway. We love you more than you’ll ever know!